I Am Always Working

free asked:


I can understand ambition. But, are there some insecure men who just want to prove to the world that they are good? What are the possible reasons for a man to work like there is no tomorrow.

Lucas

_ asked:


My husband can be a workaholic! He might work 7 days a week one week and some weeks he’ll have off a few days. We go nuts trying to figure out what we’re going to do. Back in the old days (2 yrs. ago) we used to be able to enjoy ourselves just by sitting at home doing nothing. Now it seems we’re looking to get out more and we have a baby, so that doesn’t help.

He has lost all intimacy and he isn’t very open with his emotions/ feelings. He changed a lot since we had our daughter in November. I just want to go back closer to that honeymoon stage of marriage. I’ve only been married for two years, but lately, married life isn’t as enjoyable.

When you feel your marriage becoming a separation, not a unity, what do you do? (and I’m not talking counseling, what can the couple do?)

Isabella

lil’ shamy asked:


ive been with this guy for 2 years and i love him so much hes the guy ive always wanted tall blue eyes masculin ect…the prob is that he doesnt show affection we have fought time n time again about this,he doesnt drink,smoke,dance ,socialize. Hes 28 and a sgt. for nypd hes loaded from othr sides and we broke up 2 weeks ago.he calls me a week later to tell me he misses me ..i mean come on it takes you a whole week,im always home waiting form him and he stands me up all the time for dinner becuase he has to work.Infidelity is ruled out cuz theres no way but hes a work aholic and i dont know if i could deal withthat in the future cuz he wants to get married.
Prbl. is that 1mnth ago i met this guy at college and we hit it off big time,so hes really nice and were compatible and all but he has court issues says i make him 4get all his probs and make so happy.So i have the workaholic x that i love n have guarenteed security and the wonderful loving guy who doesnt have much to offer help!

Taylor

kokab asked:


he works hard and passionately, also does all kinds of chores for his mother’s house, AC, yard, weed picking, fruit picking! travelling to Italy to settle land disputes, you name it he does it. but never any thing close to these for me. I get no attention, only when he wants sex (believe me I have tried all kinds of strategies nothing works).

we have gone to therapy. it took him a year just to open up to her and actually answer her questions about his childhood. so I know he has issues opening up. he has also been disciplined as a child with a (Italian) mother who is never satisfied. it seems that he keeps trying to prove himself to her or to his work. the first thing he does when he comes home from work or errands, is too go straight to bed and lie down or nap. because he is dead tired.

the problem is he never hears me out. we never get to the bottom of a discussion. he thinks I am not appreciative for not being happy for him to have eaten the dinner I cooked him!!! or gone out for a coffee last weekend!!!!

I am leaning towards divorce, but am so afraid that he will sweet talk me. he has done that time and again since we have been dating or during our marriage. Last night I was trying to get him to admit that he is a workaholic and has psychological problems with his mother and childhood, etc, and that he needs to seek counseling (personal and marriage). he brushed me off again with a “no that’s not true” kind of answer. I decided to sleep in the living room!!! (no spare bedroom) to start the one year separation period. of course that caught his attention.

As usual, he will be all worried and genuinely try to listen to me. it will only work for a month max, then back to his ways.

need advise.

splashdesign,.. I am the one who got him to go counseling and asking him to go now. our counselor was the one who discovered the problems deep within him that he does not want to admit. he stopped going to counseling then and he does not want to go now. he told me call your lawyer!!!

Joyjoy and Lisa- I have a job too, but know how to create balance. he doesn’t just have a job he is a “workaholic”. if you do a search, you will find that it is a psychological problem with specific symptoms, like feeling guilty when he is having fun or is away with me….

Joshua

frap asked:


how can I be a workaholic

Owen

pumpkinsmommy asked:


I need a little help with my husband. Recently he told me his is bored because we never go out anymore. I think he feels we are distant. But on the other hand he is a workaholic. He never leaves work on time, always working at least 1-3 hours late. He has recently sacrificed his Saturdays to work also. He has been working 6 days a week for the last two months. I ask him if his coworkers work as much as he does and he says no, but he is just a better employee then them.
I understand the need to work later on issues everyone in a while…. but this has really gotten out of hand. Now it is coming to a point that our family routine is thrown all off schedule…. and there are times our 10 month old son is going to bed when he is walking in the door.
How do I tell him that his family is as important as his job. How do I tell him that it is unfair of him to tell me that we don’t go out and do enough together anymore when he is NEVER around.
Anyone else deal with things like these…. how did you get past it?

BTW, he’s on salary so its not about the money.

Please… I need some suggestions and help.

Also… please don’t tell me he is having an affair…. as I know this isn’t the case.

Thank you.

Hailey

beyonduplication asked:


I can’t remember any lines, unfortunately. There is only this vague recollection of a song.

They don’t even use the actual word “workaholic”, but I think it touches on that phrase people use about no one wanting a tombstone to say “I should’ve spent more time at work” or something along those lines.

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!!

Ethan

Starfire asked:


I’m 17 and I’m my dad’s oldest child. He divorced his second wife five years ago and she moved to another state with one of the kids they had together (one stayed with us) and with her own kids (my steps). Now she’s terminally ill and my dad is taking the kids.

What do you think I could do to make them feel welcome? My dad works (he is a workaholic… kind of) and I don’t think he’s that thrilled about having to take his ex’s three kids from another relationship, anyway. It was the only way to avoid going to court, like, she was either going to sign everything, if he took her kids, or she was going to try to get the court to give custody to her family because she wanted all of them to stay together. Which I understand, I’m just saying my dad got stuck with three kids that aren’t in any way his and that he’s never even had in the house before (they didn’t live with us when they were married).

So anyway, anything I can do? Kids are ages 6 to 12.

Noah

Sarah asked:


My cousin’s girlfriend is one and its ruining their relationship.

Joseph

thebadboy asked:


From Whybrow. American Mania: When More is Not Enough.

Aiden