My husband is a workaholic-I am so lonely for HIM?
Friday, May 15th, 2009
Babygirl asked:
My husband is a workaholic. I am a SAHM. I have children with disabilities that I take care of all day everyday. I beg him to come home and he just always wants to work. I know that he isn’t cheating-for a fact believe me I have checked things out thoroughly. My question is how can I make him see, understand that I-his wife want my husband. I am lonely. I have done this for years and it’s just taking it’s toll on me. He swears I am the love of his life but he is so career oriented/driven. I just miss him sooo much. We don’t have babysitters. Family has too much on them so we are always with the children. I guess I just want my husband to WANT to be here with me and our children other than pleasing others @work. The more he works, the more they expect out of him. He promises me he will stop all the hours and spend time with me and the family. Am I being selfish for wanting to be with my husband? To just be in his arms and love him like a wife should love her husband. I miss him.
I am VERY proud that he works! The problem is the hours. It’s just hard for me… Money to me isn’t everything. Never has been. I just love and miss him.. I just want him to work normal hours so we can have time together.. That’s all. Just way too many hours.. Can’t you see-I actually love and want to spend time with him. I just want compromise that’s all…..
The problem is that he is DRIVEN to make it to the top of the company and will make it in probably 5 yrs or less. It’s just that he is losing us in the process. No we aren’t strapped financially. He is a WORKAHOLIC. I have spoke to him about this but he promises and promises and promises then breaks those promises. It works for about 2 weeks. We all just miss him. I’m sorry I didn’t mean to mislead-our children have disabilities that make it difficult in life but are not disabled. Everyone seems to think I am very pretty and am well kept. I do what a wife does. I didn’t let myself go. How do I get him to SLOW down long enough to enjoy “us” and our family? I am just stressed to the hilt!
Timothy
My husband is a workaholic. I am a SAHM. I have children with disabilities that I take care of all day everyday. I beg him to come home and he just always wants to work. I know that he isn’t cheating-for a fact believe me I have checked things out thoroughly. My question is how can I make him see, understand that I-his wife want my husband. I am lonely. I have done this for years and it’s just taking it’s toll on me. He swears I am the love of his life but he is so career oriented/driven. I just miss him sooo much. We don’t have babysitters. Family has too much on them so we are always with the children. I guess I just want my husband to WANT to be here with me and our children other than pleasing others @work. The more he works, the more they expect out of him. He promises me he will stop all the hours and spend time with me and the family. Am I being selfish for wanting to be with my husband? To just be in his arms and love him like a wife should love her husband. I miss him.
I am VERY proud that he works! The problem is the hours. It’s just hard for me… Money to me isn’t everything. Never has been. I just love and miss him.. I just want him to work normal hours so we can have time together.. That’s all. Just way too many hours.. Can’t you see-I actually love and want to spend time with him. I just want compromise that’s all…..
The problem is that he is DRIVEN to make it to the top of the company and will make it in probably 5 yrs or less. It’s just that he is losing us in the process. No we aren’t strapped financially. He is a WORKAHOLIC. I have spoke to him about this but he promises and promises and promises then breaks those promises. It works for about 2 weeks. We all just miss him. I’m sorry I didn’t mean to mislead-our children have disabilities that make it difficult in life but are not disabled. Everyone seems to think I am very pretty and am well kept. I do what a wife does. I didn’t let myself go. How do I get him to SLOW down long enough to enjoy “us” and our family? I am just stressed to the hilt!
Timothy
